When trying to stop lying people do the same mistake they do with weight loss, they usually try to fix the symptom instead of dealing with the problem itself.
In weight loss, people usually ignore the fact that they are eating because they are depressed ?and not because they are hungry then in the end they find themselves regaining the weight they have lost.
The same goes for lying prevention, people usually focus on stopping lying itself without examining the real cause behind lying.
If you are serious about stopping lying then you should deal with the real reasons behind lying and not with lying itself. Lying is not the problem but its the symptom that indicates that another problem exists.
Why are you lying?
You will need some courage before you can ask yourself that question. Sit alone in a place where no one can disturb you and then ask yourself the question, why am I lying??
- Do you lack self confidence and want to appear more confident in front of people? After all, lots of people lie just to preserve their self image and to prevent others from judging them.
- Are you lying to gain people’s attention because they usually overlook you? Do you think that people are ignoring you and that they are overlooking you most of the time?? Lots of people lie in order to get back the lost attention that they have never been able to get without lying.
- Are you lying because you lack courage?? Lots of people lie because they lack the courage to face the consequences of telling the truth. They usually lie because they lack the required skills for dealing with the anger of others.
- Are you lying to gain acceptance and approval?? Some people think that they
are worthy as long as others approve them and that?s why they keep lying in order to maintain this approval.
The right way to stop lying
If lying has became a habit for you then you should not focus on breaking this habit but instead you should be dealing with the root cause. Whether its building self confidence, developing better social skills or dealing with your fears, it wont matter, what matters is that lying will never end before these underlying reasons end.
Learn how to value yourself without depending on the judgment of others, learn how to be more influential without telling stories that never happened and learn how to have faith in your self and your abilities, only then you will stop lying.
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