What To Do About Household Enemies


I destroy my enemies when I make them my friends.

-Abraham Lincoln


Household enemies are real whether you realize it or not. These are people who plan and carry out activities to stop you from becoming successful in life.

Like a thief, they come in order to steal, kill, and destroy. Bible tells us in Matthew 10: 34-36: “Do not think I have come to bring peace to the world. No, I did not come to bring peace, but a sword. I came to set sons against their fathers, daughters against their mothers, daughters-in-law against their mothers-in-law; your worst enemies will be the members of your own family.”

Do you remember the story of Joseph and his brothers as recorded in the Bible? His brothers perpetrated an evil act against Joseph. Gen. 37:18-20 says, “They saw him in the distance, and before he reached them, they plotted against him and decided to kill him.

They said to one another, “Here comes the dreamer. Come on now, let’s kill him and throw his body into one of the dry wells. We can say that a wild animal killed him. Then we will see what becomes of his dreams.” They later changed their plan and instead sold him into slavery.

The scriptures tell us: “Judah said to his brothers, “What will we gain by killing our brother and covering up the murder? Let’s sell him to these Ishmaelites. Then we won’t have to hurt him, after all, he is our brother, our own flesh and blood. His brothers agreed, and when some Midianite traders came by, the brothers pulled Joseph out of the well and sold him for twenty pieces of silver to the Ishmaelites, who took him to Egypt.” 

Why did Joseph’s brothers do such an evil thing? Envy and jealousy. They saw Joseph’s future to be brighter than theirs.

We have the sad story of the first murder as recorded in the book of Genesis. Cain and Abel were brothers. Abel was a shepherd and Cain a farmer. 

“After some time, Cain brought some of his harvest and gave it as an offering to the LORD. Then Abel brought the first lamb born to one of his sheep, killed it and gave the best parts of it as an offering. The LORD was pleased with Abel and his offering, but he rejected Cain and his offering. Cain became furious, and he scowled in anger.”

Cain lured his brother Abel to the fields and murdered him in cold blood. Jealousy was behind Cain’s wicked act.

The Bible has a lot to say about household enemies. In Micah 7: 5-6 the word of God says, “Don’t believe your neighbor or trust your friend. Be careful what you say even to your wife. In these times sons treat their fathers like fools, daughters oppose their mothers, and young women quarrel with their mothers-in-law; a person’s enemies are the members of own family.”  

Household enemies are not only those from your immediate family; they include your friends and loved ones. They may include those you work with. In Psalm 41:9 The scripture says, “Even my close friend in whom I trusted, who ate my bread, has lifted his heel against me.”

Our closest friends can betray us when we least expect it. Such betrayal can seriously endanger your life.  Jesus had his fair share of enemies. Matthew 26: 48-50 says, “Now the betrayer had given them a sign, saying, “The one I will kiss is the man; seize him.” And he came up to Jesus at once and said, “Greetings, Rabbi!”  And he kissed him. Jesus said to him, “Friend, do what you came to do.” Then they came up and laid hands on Jesus and seized him.”

Those of you who have read Shakespeare Julius Caesar will agree with me that his assassination was master-minded by those from his inner circle, people who knew him very well.

2 Timothy 3:1-4 talks about household enemies: “Remember that there will be difficult times in the last days. People will be selfish, greedy, boastful, and conceited; they will be insulting, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, and irreligious; they will be unkind, merciless, slanderers, violent, and fierce; they will hate the good; they will be treacherous, reckless, and swollen with pride; they will love pleasure rather than God.”

Household enemies will always work against you when you are progressing in life. They may be from your immediate or extended family. They carry out their acts of treachery and leave no traces of their involvement. Because they are close to you, you will never suspect them to be behind your woes.

Household enemies know a lot about you. They are able to monitor your coming in and going out. 

Watch out if you are the only well- to- do person in your family. Watch out if you have what other people want. Watch out if you are doing well in your career or business. Watch out if your children are doing very well academically or in any other field.  This is because your enemies will work around the clock to bring you down. They secretly rejoice when you get into trouble. They may collaborate with the external enemy to cause your downfall.

Do not lose guard over the people you live or work with. Watch out when people close to you are praising you. Such praises may not be sincere. Whilst they are praising you, they are at the same time hacking you at the roots to bring you down.  

What can we do about household enemies? Are you ready to deal with household enemies?

Here are a few tips to consider. Pay more attention to not what people say but what they do. You may not know the truth because of their lies but what they do will give them out as your enemies. The best thing to do is to keep away from them. Do not share your secrets with them. If possible relocate to another place where they can’t easily have access to you and know what you are doing.

From the perspective of God’s word, we should not repay evil for evil. We should leave vengeance to God. Hebrews 10:30 says, “For we know who said, “I will take revenge, I will repay” and who said, “The Lord will judge his people.” Romans 12:14-21 offers similar advice. It states: “Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse them. Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep. Live in harmony with one another. Do not be haughty, but associate with the lowly. Never be wise in your own sight. Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honourable in the sight of all. If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.”

 Let it sink deeply into your heart that vengeance belongs to God. Do not harm those who have hurt you one way or the other.

Bible admonishes us to treat our adversaries in a certain way that is acceptable to the Lord. In Luke 6: 27-36 the scriptures say, “But I tell you who hear me: love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, and pray for those who ill-treat you. If anyone hits you on the one cheek, let him hit the other one too; if someone takes your coat, let him have your shirt as well. Give to everyone who asks you something, and when someone takes what is yours, do not ask for it back. Do for others just what you want them to do for you.

If you love only the people who love you, why should you receive a blessing? Even sinners love those who love them. And if you do good only to those who do good to you, why should you receive a blessing? Even sinners do that! And if you lend only to those from whom you hope to get back, why should you receive a blessing? Even sinners lend to sinners, to get back the same amount! No! Love your enemies and do good to them; lend and expect nothing back. You will then have a great reward, and you will be children of the Most High God. For he is good to the ungrateful and the wicked. Be merciful just as your Father is merciful.” 

Similarly Proverbs 25:21-22 says, “If your enemies are hungry, feed them; if they are thirsty, give them a drink. You will make them burn with shame, and the Lord will reward you.” Romans 12:20 says, “To the contrary, “If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.”

God has assured us of a reward if we pray for our enemies and wish them the very best as we wish for ourselves. A reward will certainly come your way if you persistently pray for your enemies.

As you pray ask God to fight your battles for you. This was the attitude of David as captured in Psalm 35:1-5: “Oppose those who oppose me, Lord and fight those who fight against me! Take your shield and armour and come to my rescue. Lift up your spear and your axe against those who pursue me. Promise that you will save me.

May those who try to kill me be defeated and disgraced! May those who plot against me be turned back and confused! May they be like straw blown by the wind as the angel of the Lord pursues them!” Let God deal with your enemies for you.

Jesus Christ is our greatest role model. His enemies did cruel things to him. Did he take revenge? He asked the Father to forgive them. He said, “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.” And they cast lots to divide his garments. (Luke 23:34)

Bible tells us to be cautious and vigilant as we go about our daily business. Be wise as you have enemies. In Luke 10: 16 the word of God says, “Listen! I am sending you out just like sheep to a pack of wolves. You must be as cautious as snakes and as gentle as doves.”

In conclusion, household enemies are real whether you believe it or not. They are people you know and who know you. 

They are of your own kindred. They may include your friends, work colleagues or those you interact with at various levels.

 Their aim is to prevent you from making progress in life. They may inflict you with insanity, disease, accident, poverty, blindness, injuries or even death.

Household enemies keep their activities a guarded secret. They will never like to leave traces of their involvement.

Keep away from such people. Relocate if this is possible. Do not divulge your personal secrets with people you cannot trust.

Bible says we should not take revenge on our enemies but pray for them. God will then reward us perhaps with our safety and safe protection. Be perpetually vigilant so as not to fall into the trap of the enemy.

Yours in inspiration,

ARK AWOLUGUTU, Your Guide & Mentor

Email: awolugutu@yahoo.com

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