I have vowed never to raise my hand on lady and I pray THE MOST HIGH GOD helps me to fulfill this promise. Nigerian actress Chika Ike shares her sad story of how she became a victim of ?Domestic Violence? . Read her sad story below:
The past three years has been a very emotional period for me. I focused my energy on work and to build back my self esteem. its been really hard for me to come out straight and talk about this because sometimes I pinch myself to wake up and not believe that I was a victim of domestic violence.
I?ve been through a lot in my life, faced a lot of challenges but this is one topic I?ve tried so hard to avoid and have been waiting for the right time but I have come to a resolve that there?s really no right time because every second of the day,lives are being lost due to domestic violence. I was a victiim of domestic violence in my marriage and that was the singular reason I left my marriage, aside other reasons.
Growing up as a girl. I was always known as the sweetest kid on the block, before I got married, I have been through some relationships and for once no man had ever laid a finger on me.
The first time it happened in my marriage I didn?t understand it because I am not the type of woman a man beats but I guess there are no types. It just happens and no woman deserves it.
As a young girl I thought it was love or his way of expressing his emotions,after every beating he pleads , cries and says it won?t happen again, once again I thought it was love and made excuses for him. Over the years when it kept happening consistently I started looking for other definitions for it.
I started loosing my self pride,self esteem , self worth, and most painfully i lost a pregnancy (Miscarriage) I almost lost my life in the process then I realised how serious and abnormal it really was.
I have heard and read a lot of accusations from ignorant people who don?t know my story,I guess that?s why they are ignorant. I was 20yrs old and very na?ve to the world when I got married .? They said I married for money? LOL. I was married to a corporate guy,who had a 9_5 job in a bank, Lives in a rented 2 bedroom apartment at Egbe.. So do the maths! .
I married for love. I did a traditional wedding. A white wedding and a court wedding. So that?s how much I wanted to be married forever. For five years I hoped, prayed & wished that one day it will all change. But the last straw that broke the carmels back was during a heated argument he threw a glass jug to my face and I dogged it and it shattered on d wall. I saw death flash before me and I made a decision to save my life. I left my marriage.
Am not saying this to draw pity from anyone because we are entitled to our opinions and believes. I am not also saying this to discourage people from falling in love because its a beautiful feeling and I still believe in it. I am saying this to educate, share and talk about my experience as a victim of domestic violence because it is real.