Part One
Actions and reactions forces are equal but opposite, as Newton?s Third Law states. It is
against this milieu that I am compelled to also add to the barrage of responses that have
sprung from across the world in reaction to the sex scandal that has rocked the
Metropolitan City of Tamale in a couple of weeks ago. The wised have always maintained
that if someone farts to upset you and you do not compose yourself well in reply, you will
shit yourself in revenge; a situation you will not want to find yourself in.
It is customary for young people of our societies to work hard, succeed and serve the society
that made them what there are. It is a tradition that offers a sense of pride for those who
are privileged to have acquired knowledge, skills or wealth either from within or outside the
community to try to say thank you by contributing immensely to change conditions and
better lives in the community. Those outside the community have many ways they give back
to the hand that fed them when they chance opportunities. Examples are the successful
ones that have set up businesses and created employments to help boost the economy,
some sponsor poor children to attain education to better their lives. Today young men and
women raised in this community are medical doctors serving their people with all the pride
you can think of. What about those in the lecture theatres and classrooms in the
educational institutions? These folks are laying the foundation for the future of our
generation. Many sons and daughters of the community have gone out of the country and
come back to as well add the little they can, some send remittances from outside the
country that do so much for our ailing economy and will one day return to help in diverse
ways. In the case of our brother from Canada, community spirits is not his game. What can I
do for my community is not his priority, rather, what can my community do for me seems
to be his lifelong ambition.
It goes without saying that, a young man of his age should normally be yearning for a loving
and caring woman to settle down and readers will agree with me that any right thinking girl
at a certain age will equally be looking for a partner and this does not exclude our brother
from Canada.
What is more, it is every parent?s wish to have a responsible young man introduced to them
as a potential in-law, especially when their daughter is finishing school or gains
employment. It again does not exclude this gentleman looking at him at face value. This
phenomenon has existed for generations and still continues. With this in mind, I find it
sensible for any girl to try a relationship with a man who presents himself in a manner that
she thinks is ideal for her definition of a relationship. I am pretty sure this was a
presentation our brother made before all these ladies in this saga. Let us remember that
every married person has to ask and answer themselves so many questions before going
into a relationship of their life time. Some of these questions have answers, some you will 2
never get answers to and will have to prepare to live with them; a try and error part of life, a
life situation no one can escape from, a situation I think our sisters fell victims to a couple of
weeks ago. If there is a girl out there who thinks she could have easily escaped the tricks of
this pervert or ever had all answers to these questions I am talking about, please I advise
you to think again and hope that you are not found in a desperate situation like some of
these ladies.
In addition to the above, may I emphasise here that an intimate relationship between two
consenting adults is a daily occurrence in every community. However, what is outrageous
about this one is the number of ladies involved in his crusade, the energy used, the ordeal
he would have taken these ladies in such an ostentatious style, the measure and the
catalogue of the footages he is able to archive and distributed leaves us no room to
contemplate but to interrogate his activities and delimit his credentials for lessons to be
learnt.
To begin with, I do not want to admit that any of these victims knew or consented beyond
having just fun, neither will I accept a proposition that even a single victim of this
dehumanising attack knew he was exploiting other girls, nor acquiesce with suggestions that
they knew exactly what he was going to do with these footages. They would have been
happy though to pose for a couple of pictures exclusively for memories and for him not to
miss them due to distance but not for Facebook; I can guarantee that. This guy would have
promised each and every one of them heavens and earth just to gain their trust and achieve
his ulterior motive.
The next is to deal with questions that linger in our minds: Why will someone do this to his
own people? How did he manage to get away with it? How could one person do this
successfully? In a nutshell what would have been his motivation?
For these, we should be mindful of the fact that the world has changed a lot within the last
two decades with the progress made in technology. A lot of businesses not known to our
world have sprung up accordingly and this could provide us with some possible answers.
The style, skills and efficacy displayed by this young man tells us we could be dealing
potentially with a highly sophisticated porn star, a sex tourist or sex addict on the loose. He
could as well be a male prostitute that has decided to expand his business to a niche or a
virgin market he knows better. As susceptible as our young girls are, it would have been
difficult for any of these victims to have survived the tactics of a person with such a high
calibre of proficiency, given the level of professionalism with which he would have carried
out this international sex campaign.
As far as this unpleasant incident is concern, a lot has happened and we must not lose sight
of the fact that these victims were being preyed upon by a vicious unstoppable predator and
that, they never in their wildest imagination thought of doing such a despicable act. These
are decent ladies of our community who are in search of responsible men for marriage. It is 3
just unfortunate that they were found at the wrong place in the wrong hand. These ladies
were let down by a community member they thought they could trust. We should not let
them down for the second time and do our best to help them because we as a people
deserve better.
With regards to posting such footages on social media and promising more to come, I can
assure you it will not help the situation. Are we shaming him or further tarnishing the
images of these beautiful innocent ladies who form the core of our society? I will think that
it rather serves as ads for his franchise and will help him gain more clients for his business.
Remember there are under aged children on Facebook and posting more to register your
frustrations towards the footages or demonstrate your anger towards the girl?s encounter
could only recruit our vulnerable brothers and sisters into his business empire when they
could do something productive today to be responsible adults in the future.
Part two to follow
By Abdul-Fatahi Abdulai
UK
